Diabetes Advice from a D-Mom: Five-Year Diabetes Anniversary

Posted by leighann on Fri, 08/02/2013 - 12:58 in

Diabetes-AnniversaryMy daughter was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes at the age of three, and as we eclipsed the anniversary of her diagnosis this summer, it was hard to believe it has been five whole years. She has now lived more of her life with diabetes than without.

I remember being overwhelmed and maybe even a little numb in those early days and months. I was all business back then and took it one blood sugar, one meal and one day at a time as we adjusted to our new life with diabetes. I remember feeling a sense of loss, because my daughter’s life would be different than the one we had expected or imagined for her.

But having the perspective of over half a decade, I can appreciate what diabetes has given us.

Of course I would take away her diabetes in an instant if I could.

But it’s not ALL bad.

Good Things that Can Come from Diabetes

Because we travel to see the endocrinologist, we turn appointment days into excursions and mini vacations. We have been to so many museums, zoos and historical sites that have certainly enriched her life and education. The trips are often just her and I, so it’s bonding time that the two of us might not have had otherwise.

We have also both traveled and seen parts of the country that we wouldn’t have otherwise. Last year we were able to attend the Children With Diabetes Friends For Life Conference and she even had a day at Disney!

Making Sure She Doesn’t Miss Out with Diabetes

I always want to make sure my daughter doesn’t miss out on anything because of diabetes, including school parties, so I’ve volunteered to be room parent several years. So many parents aren’t involved in their children’s education, but by frequently being at school I feel that I build stronger relationships with school staff, which helps me advocate for her and her diabetes. Chaperoning field trips, helping at field day and being in the classroom give us a glimpse into this part of her life.

She has also become her own diabetes advocate by raising money and awareness, including being on television, the radio and in the newspaper. We’ll never know if the compassion and caring she shows for others is empathy that has grown through her own diabetes or if it’s just her innate personality.

Some Positive Diabetes Advice

In that first year we were learning this new language of diabetes, including insulin-to-carb ratios, basal rates, carb factors and blood sugars. But through sharing my experiences on my own website, D-Mom Blog, and eventually writing the book Kids First, Diabetes Second, I am able to share what I’ve learned with other families who are now where we were five years ago. In an abstract way, the returns far exceed what I give to others.

Here is the diabetes advice* I would give myself if I could go back in time:

  • Relax, you’ve got this.
  • There are going to be high blood sugars and low blood sugars, deal with them and move on.
  • Don’t be afraid of walking to the park that’s a half mile from your house for fear that you will have some major diabetes emergency.
  • Let her eat the chocolate pudding in the TV dinner.
  • Bake cookies at the holidays and make a good guess as to the carbs. The fun is in the baking.
  • The A1C is not a judgment of your parenting abilities.
  • Become an expert; knowledge is power.
  • Ask others for help even if you think you can do it all yourself.
  • You know your child’s diabetes better than any medical professional could.
  • Seek out playmates and play dates. You don’t have to give each parent a short course in diabetes management, just teach them the basics and give them your phone number.
  • Don’t hesitate to let her do things without you (even if you spend your time at the café down the street white knuckled and checking your phone for text messages). Letting her have independence is a good thing.
  • Find other parents of children with diabetes who “get it.” You don’t always need people to fix your problems, but someone saying “I know” goes a long way.
  • Roll with the changes. Don’t be afraid to give something a try. Embrace technological advances.
  • It’s not going to be all sunshine and roses. But there is still quite a bit of sunshine.
  • There will be periods of time that you don’t even give diabetes a second thought. As time goes on, it fades into the background and doesn’t always seem so immediate.
  • She can be whole, even with diabetes.
  • Celebrate with cupcakes.
  • Relax. I know I said that already, but it’s worth repeating.

*Information posted on Podder Talk is not intended to be taken as medical advice. Always consult with your healthcare provider for questions and guidance on managing any health-related issues.